Beyond the Fading Light: Seeing Our Connections Through Cosmic Eyes

When we gaze up at the night sky, we're often captivated by the beautiful twinkling lights scattered across the dark canvas of night. But how often do we consider that many of these radiant stars have, in reality, long since faded? Yet, even after their light has gone out, what a profound blessing it is that we still get to witness their brilliance for the rest of our lives.

What if we applied this very same principle to our human connections? 

When Loved Ones Are Gone, Their Light Remains

When we lose someone we love, a wave of intense emotions can wash over us: sorrow, disappointment, heartbreak, and profound grief. But what we often don't realize in those raw moments is this: for the rest of our lives, we'll carry a vast archive of memories. We can play back these videos in our minds, look at those mental pictures, and for the rest of our lifetime, we'll still get to see our loved one shine. Their light, much like a distant star, continues to reach us, illuminating our inner world long after they've faded from our immediate reach.

The Shifting Constellations of Relationships

This concept also applies to the relationships in our lives, whether they are friendships, mentorships, family bonds, or romantic partnerships. There are inevitably times when these connections feel challenging. We might experience annoyance, disappointment, hurt, or feel unseen and unheard. These are the cloudy nights in our personal sky.

Yet, alongside these difficult moments, there are countless others filled with laughter, joy, and profound gratitude. These are the radiant stars, the moments that truly light up the dark canvas of our night sky. So, when we're in the midst of disappointment, anger, or hurt, if we can just pause, set those immediate feelings aside (for a moment, for perspective, we do need to still move through the emotions to heal), and look deep into our hearts for where the joy and gratitude reside, we'll realize something powerful. No matter the present struggle, for the rest of our lives, we'll be able to look at this individual and still see them shine. Just as they, in turn, will remember us and see our light.

Finding the Starlight Again

Despite this understanding, many of us find ourselves in a place of deep hurt, sadness, or disappointment. We might be wondering, How do I even get back to that perspective? We know they once shone so brightly for us, but right now, that light feels obscured, and we're not sure if we're in a place to see it. There are indeed many concepts and paths that can bring us to a place of forgiveness and allow us to once again perceive that beautiful, shining light in our own night sky.

 Moving Through the Shadows

First, we must acknowledge and move through the emotions we're feeling. Allow them to flow, but don't let them take root and consume you. We need to explore them: Why do we feel this way? What specific situations or words triggered these reactions? Once we're able to decipher the "why" behind our emotions, we can then reflect on our responses and actions. Where could we have reacted differently? What patterns emerged that we might want to change? It's important we take this time to reflect on ourselves and discover the answers to these questions before we can effectively ask others to do the same.

The Journey of Shared Healing

When we're healing within a relationship, it's rarely fast or easy, though we all wish it were. This journey takes time, requires difficult conversations, and often means truly hearing how we might have hurt or disappointed another. It demands taking accountability and consciously correcting our patterns. It's a two-person dance, a shared commitment.

As you navigate these challenging waters together, something remarkable happens: more sparkling, joyful memories will inevitably be made. Difficult times will always arise in life, but by using the tools you learn and strengthen in your shared healing, you'll be equipped to overcome them.

When Paths Diverge, Light Remains

Yes, this healing takes two, and if the other person isn't willing to meet you on this journey, sometimes we need to let go of the relationship. This is a profound and often painful decision. Following such a loss, our focus must shift to healing ourselves and forgiving the ending of the relationship.

Once we achieve that inner peace, however, something transformative occurs: we will once again see that light shine. The beautiful moments, the shared laughter, and the profound connections will remain. While new shared experiences may no longer be possible, the cherished memories will always be there, casting their enduring glow.

Coaching is not just for individuals; it is for couples as well. Should you want to explore techniques to further your healing, contact Jenny via email/text/ call. wisdomweaverway@icloud.com. 978-843-5558.